Just in case you were wondering if I’ve always been a model of efficiency and forward momentum, I have not*. Furthermore, I’ve had experience on the other side of this scenario more than once, so trust me, no judgement.
I’ve discovered a new occupational hazard of being a coach: People want to tell me about their favourite self-help books**. Putting aside the vast difference in quality and usefulness of these books, I can get behind anyone reading stuff that motivates them to make some changes for the better.
I’ve noticed a bit of a trend in these conversations. When someone tells me about the latest book that they are obsessed with, I follow up with these two questions:
- What is it that you want to change in your life that compelled you to read this book?
- What actions have you taken to (insert answer to question #1 here) as a result of this book?
The response is often: *blinks*.
- The Planner: “I have fantastic intentions and I make incredible plans and schedules (sometimes colour coded) for optimal workouts. I’m not following through because the conditions are never 100% perfect, as they need to be, but planning has been going well and I am ready. I don’t seem to be getting any results.”
- The Inspired: “I read inspiring books about people exercising every week, and I’ve learned so much about working out. I can’t do what those people are doing because my life is completely different and I don’t have the time, but I think the books are helping. I think I see some results but hard to tell”
- The Tester: “I did a pushup, just like it was explained in the book, but nothing changed so I guess it doesn’t work for me. I don’t seem to be getting any results.”
- The Complacent: “I’m fit, I don’t need to workout anymore. Done. I don’t seem to be getting any new results.”
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